So what I have done is only pay attention to those things that are critical and not the rant and compulsive I need.
I have since then removed all boy things from his former boyish bedroom, and replaced them with frilly sheer curtains and cute bed clothes.
His little panty girdle gave him a nice smooth and quite feminine appearance.
We try to steer clear of these disingenuous individuals, but we also fall victim to their manipulation.