They bring the shallow materialism.
Kevin and his points I disagree with for other reasons however.
I found him very informative and helpful to give clear language to what I had experienced and to what I was trying to reconcile.
Men call them Gold Diggers, women call them Hos, but they call themselves Winners.
There was a brother I had a crush on from my church and he also chose the woman with two children over me.
Thus, men with children often end up with women with children.
The important thing is to take care of ourselves and to be healthy.
As believers, we operate according to a different system and that system is the kingdom of God.